Why is it that we are so judgemental of other parents? In the secret life of a mom I feel that many women judge others for varied reasons. They work, they stay at home, they are disciplinarians, they are not, they are trendy, they are not, the list could go on and on. I can share the silly joy that I felt when I saw one of those "perfect moms" from preschool that I never saw in an outfit more than once at the pool-- and gasp-- she had cellulite on her legs like the rest of us.
Yesterday we were in Wal Mart and Libby threw a fit. I do not tolerate fits in stores, and therefore we promptly left. Of course Libby was screaming at me like I was a child abductor as I was dragging her out of the store. I could feel the eyes of every mother, woman for that matter burning into my back as I triumphed in my own battle against misbehavior. Instead of feeling confident in my decision, I felt embarrassed. Why? Because they were staring at us.
This was a nice lesson for me, it is okay to discipline, too many parents do not these days, and I can deal with the embarrassment. I can not deal with a naughty sassy child in public, and that is okay.
On a better note, we were able to spend the better half of two hours playing outside this afternoon, and we are going to reattempt the shopping trip this evening. Thank you God for the sunshine!
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"Common looking people are the best in the world: that is the reason the Lord makes so many of them." Abraham Lincoln
3 comments:
Wendy, I can tell you I agree with everything you just said and just think you only have one that throws a fit........chances are with four, that one will throw a fit each time we go. Actually, most of the time they are good, but we leave the store if there are fits in the store and either Josh or I stay and do the shopping while one of us sits in the car with the kids.Believe me we get the looks too! The kids seem to be better if I am alone with them though.
I also secretly like finding flaws in the "perfect mommies" too. They always make me feel like I never have anything together!
ha ha... I just had a funny experience this week at playgroup. I had woken up late that day and we had so much to do. I didnt have time to put on makeup shower or anything! and Hailey was a mess. We both had fro hair and dorky outfits we just through together. I excused us as soon as we got there for being such a mess. After the playgroup, a few of us moms went out to lunch with the kids and we got to talking and I was telling how horrible the day was going. The moms were like omg thank you cassie! We were beginning to think you were one of those "put together moms" I was baffled! I always feel chaotic and crazy, and def. NOT put together at all. Its funny how we view each other. You guys may also be viewed as the perfect moms and not even know it! I think we all try our best and being a mom is hard work. ^5 for all mommies!!! we rock!!
oh and thats great that you dont tolarate the tantrums! Let pple look all they want... I usually get the dirty looks from non-parents, the moms usually look at me and smile knowingly.
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