The first encounter was with a neighbor/long time family friend that lives the next block up from us. She and her two kiddos were also going. Her two kids were taking their Nintendo DS's with them to play while they were playing outside. Now Little Lady just got her very own pink DS from her Pawpaw for her birthday. This, and whether I feel she needs it or not will be a post for a later date. While the DS is a lot of fun, I strongly feel that video games need to be limited. 1/2 hour per day is the rule, unless it is the Wii Fit and it is too yucky for outside playing. I know that is even a lot for some families. Little Lady does not understand why these kiddos get to play DS and she does not.
So we get to the school.... there were a lot of kids there, little kids, no parents. We play together. She wants to play on the jungle gym area. This is were things go down hill. These little kids are fighting. Not play fighting, but aggressive physical fighting... kicking, hitting, throwing rubber mulch in each other's faces. Now usually I would be the first to say something. There were four adults near by cheering one of the kids on to "beat his a**" Needless to say I suggested we play in a different area and then lectured her about how we do not ever say the words we just heard and how it is never okay to fight. A few minutes later we go back to the area as most the kids have moved on. Imagine how appalling it was to hear a 12/13 year old young lady tell a 2/3 little girl to do her "b***** walk", and then to hear the near by parents use the f word in ways I never thought imaginable. At this point we decided to go home.
Now, I am not saying that I never curse, I have, and sometimes I do. Never in front of, within ear shot, or at my child.
We feel very strongly about our conservative beliefs. Being a Christian does not mean to use trying to convert everyone to our beliefs, but more being kind people, and teaching Little Lady to be a kind person. I may not succeed everyday at being the best Christian I can be, but I do try.
Little Lady asked me why people use such bad words, "you know mommy words worser than fat, and shut up, and stupid" She asked permission to say those. The best explanation I could give her was that because they did not know better words to use. We then talked about how important reading is so we can learn new words to use.
What concerns me more is this the very same school she will attend next year. I know I just need to get over myself. I am very nervous about taking her out of the Christian environment she has been in for the last three years and thrusting her into this new place. At this time we have no other choice.
To finish this post I am going to use the template my weekly planner has in it:
Blessing this week: A healthy smart newly six year old little girl.
Need this week: Hubby to find suitable gainful employment.
Praise this week: The bills are paid.
1 comment:
Even though we arent a very practicing christian family, we do not use that language in our household. Of course there is the occasional slip and we always correct ourselves saying that was not a nice word and none of us should say that. I believe its about being a nurturing family and teaching our children to respect ourselves and others with what we say and do. I'm glad you took Libby out of that situation and I completely understand your concern for public school next year. I think Libby is very strong. I guarantee she will influence her peers from the morals you have given her. I feel badly for those children whose parents raise them with such disrespect and abuse. Swearing at a child is abuse. Its just too bad we can't protect them all like we do our own. When I see adults act like that, it infuriates me. lol... makes me want to "beat thier a**" ha ha! j/k
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