I ask myself often why women, mothers attack are so very opinionated towards the two sects. The working, and the non working. I have done both, I have stayed home, I have worked, and I have just worked part time. Right now I have a full time schedule.
The question I am pondering today is why they attack each other. I will prelude this by stating the fact that since I chose to go back to school, that when and if we have any more children I will be a working mom. I made the choice to take out loans, it is not my husband's responsibility to pay them back.
Instead of the focus being on who works and who does not should it not be about the real time you spend with your children. I have a friend who stays home. This person really does not spend much time with their child. Their day is spent running from activity to store. I have a friend who works, a lot. When she gets home she wants time to herself. I do not see how one is better than the other, yet inevitably they will make comment about each other.
I guess my point is one day when my daughter is grown, she will not remember when I worked and when I did not, but the time that I invested in her. The hours we have played dolls, read stories under the covers, shared memories and hopes, and just enjoyed the company of each other.
Whether you work or not enjoy your children....
1 comment:
I have to agree! You know, my mom stayed at home with me until I was 8, and the only memories I have of my younger years are those I spent with my grandmother on the farm. My mother didn't know how to be a mother (still doesn't) so it really didn't matter if she was home with me or not.
I technically do both - stay at home (home daycare) and work at night. They are both equally hard for many reasons. And I have bad days and stressful days and days I don't want to be near my children...but in the end, we all do the best we can do, and hope that it's enough. :)
I think you going back to school is a wonderful thing. Look what you're teaching Libby about life and choices. She's going to know she can do anything she wants, as many times as she wants!!
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